Mistakes are something that we all make. It is simply part of the human condition. I think I have mentioned before in the blog that certain tests and scenarios are given to us throughout our lifetime. Even though we may make the wrong choice at that time, the thing that matters most is what you have learned from your mistake and how you learn to handle the situation better in the future.
Oftentimes when we face a difficult decision, we “choose” what the easiest option may be, or you may “choose” what you WANT to do, instead of focusing your decision on what you NEED to do. Deep down we all have that little voice in our head that tells us yes and no or even gives us warning. That, my friends, is our conscience. We all have one and it works the best when we actually listen to it. But sometimes our decision is clouded by other factors and decision making is not always cut and dry. Information starts to get cloudy as we want to factor in other peoples thoughts and feelings.
How do we know when we have made the right choice? When you have made your decision, you will instantly feel lighter, or more relieved. What about the wrong decision? We will usually be plagued with guilt and and sad feelings when we make the wrong choice. I am sure that all of us have been on both sides of the fence and you have experienced each of these feelings at one time or another. This again, is our conscience at work. telling us to be proud that we have made the right choice or to maybe re think things and try to make them right again.
I think the biggest struggle with facing a difficult decision is other peoples input. We are usually more worried about what other people will think of us or we are afraid to hurt someone’s feelings. Everyday we have to face a decision or struggle and attempt to separate what is good for us vs. what is good for someone else. And life has a funny way of throwing many factors into the decision you make: Finances, children, and health may all sway your decision one way or the other.
Here are some things that you can practice in your daily life to help make better, more productive, and more influential decisions:
- Use your journal to write down what the decision you need to make is. It is also helpful to write down the reason (or your motivating factor) why you need to make this decision.
- Give yourself an appropriate time frame to make the decision. Sometimes when we make hasty decisions we do what we want, not necessarily do we do something we need to do.
- Make a list of pros and cons or negatives and benefits to the answer that you are seeming to lead to. If the cons outweigh the pros, try it again with a different solution.
- Think outside the box. My favorite decisions to make are the ones in which my answer can be flexible. Yes, certain scenarios need an either/ or answer, but other situations allow for you to be a bit more creative. If neither of the current solutions “feel” right, then consider taking a point from each and mend the best of both worlds.
- I think it is always helpful to think about someone you admire and look up to. Who influenced you? Who did you learn the most from? Did you have a mentor? Think about this person and put them in your shoes. What would they do?
Thanks all for reading. Blessings!